28 January 2013

There are some things I have to say.

Being without the internet at home for the last couple weeks, I've spent wayyyy too much time playing on my iPhone.  Which means, I've spent a ton of time looking on Instagram, using my Pintrest app, stalking Facebook, and trying to catch up on some blog reading.  Clearly, not posting any new posts here, because lemme tell ya, typing on that thing is hard.  My texts even get all FUBAR.

But anyway.  The point.
The point is, that going through all of those apps, and reading all of these things, a few common threads started to pull at me.  The first being, holy shizzzz are we obsessed with our weight.
I mean really.  Half of the "hair & beauty" pins on Pintrest are about weight loss, or "motivational" pictures of girls who probably spend 98% of their lives at the gym {not that spending that much of your time at the gym is bad, just sayin'}
And that's just messed up to me.  Seriously.
What is with the lack of diversity??  And I don't just mean that it's filled with a lot of slender types instead of larger girls...there's definitely a lack of anything but caucasian women.  Is it because we're all so lazy we're just repinning other people's pins or what?  sheesh.

Anyway, on the topic of weight loss, I have decided that is also complete and utter BS.
Awhile back, I wrote a post on how disgusted I was with myself for weighing 190 pounds, and decided I'd bust my ass to get slim again.
Guess what?  It's a few months later and I'm still 190 pounds, with a fiance who tells me daily how much he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful.  Just as I am.  A few extra pounds and all.
I tried exercising regularly.  Which resulted in pain, thanks to being unable to find a sports bra that I could fit into and afford.  I began eating better, and keeping track of what I eat.  And guess what?  That weight just stayed right on there.  The only way I feel I'll really be able to lose any substantial amount of weight, is if I stop eating altogether, or someone chops off my boobs.
And ya know what?  I don't care anymore.  I liked myself anyway.  I thought I was pretty.  I thought my jeans looked awesome, and my shirts looked cute.  And I still fell into the trap of not being good enough, by comparing myself to all of these girls and women who are lucky enough to be that slender, whether by being able to lose weight or by simply having that body type.
And if I {I consider myself to be a pretty confident person, by the way} fell into that trap, what are we teaching the next generation?  That if you're not supermodel slim, you're worthless? 

I guess I still don't know where I'm going with this...
Except to say that I feel like punching every girl I see post something about eating a burger and feeling like a fatass.  I don't care if you look like Jabba the Hutt, you're still gorgeous to someone, somewhere.


Rebecca @ Frugal Fashion Mommy said...

I love this! I am a big Pinterest fan and I always see the posts that show super ripped skinny girls and how they are shown as motivational. While they should be proud of how they look and maintaining it, there's nothing wrong with having a little something extra on your body. As long as you are healthy, your weight shouldn't matter. <3


Traci said...

I have to say, I WAS the same way. Now, after having my son I see things in an entirely different way. My self esteem was as low as it can come but there was just something amazing about watching my body make my kid that changed the way I viewed things. Suddenly I felt strong and beautiful. I'm still mindful of what I eat and my weight but now it's because I respect this new image I have of myself and I want to see how strong I can make it. Now it has nothing to do with looks. I love what I see in the mirror. This body made and fed my bratty boy! And seeing as my husband, after 6 years together, is still basically humping my leg on a daily basis, I think I'm good ;) so if I choose to eat an entire cheese pizza and gain 5lbs it doesn't bother me the way it used to. Great post!

Beth W said...

It amazes me that people don't see the whole picture on this weight loss thing....it isn't just eating sensibly, it isn't just exercising regularly...it's genetics, hormones, and a million others things we have no control over.

I am super-glad that you're enjoying your body, because we all should (and you're right- we should be teaching the next generation to love their bodies instead of criticizing them, especially viewing parts of their bodies are separate from their body as a whole).

If you can enjoy your life, then your body is just right. It's about being empowered in what you can do and how you are, not at all what you look like.

Nikki said...

Love this!

The Lovely One said...

I wish I could be happy in my own skin! Until I am more confident, I will continue trying to shed those pounds!